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…all things work together for good… {Part six}

Part Six

Note: This is Part Six. To start from the beginning CLICK HERE. I have pondered and prayed over how much of our story to share. God has done so many wonderful things for us in just a few short months, but part of me wanted to hide some of those things away in my heart — to treasure them a little longer before letting anyone else see or hear them. But another part of me knows God has instructed me to tell of the good things He has done and not be silent, so I’ll carefully share a little more of our story. God showed up in some amazing ways in our lives. He is our Protector, our Deliverer, our Great Physician. He is also a loving Father that knows just what we need, when we need it. You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. Lord my God, I will praise you forever. (Psalm 30: 11-12)   November 5, 2012 I was holding Sylvia-Kate as the midwife was getting ready for Steven to cut the umbilical cord. She was wrapped in a plush blue towel. Then the assistant pulled back the bottom of the towel, and we realized everything wasn’t perfect. Her cord was already severed. It had broken during the pushes apparently. My midwife quickly did an assessment. She was breathing ok; her heart rate was up but coming back down. She was pale though, and had lost quite a bit of blood.  There was no way of knowing exactly how much; she needed to be transferred to the hospital. As the EMT’s arrived, everyone in my living room was eerily quiet. I could see the worry written all over Steven’s face. I wanted to run to him and comfort him. I wanted to tell them all that my baby girl was going to be just fine. I didn’t say anything though. I just sat and watched as everything moved in slow motion. Steven went with her in the ambulance, and then I got up to get ready (with the help of my midwife and photographer) to meet them at the hospital. As I put on my shoes, I held the hands of my midwife and we prayed over my little girl. I could tell everyone else was very worried. I had Peace though, that only the Holy Spirit can give. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28 ESV) For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the  Lord , “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV) The above two verses played over and over in my head that evening. God was reminding me of His promise to me. You see, that night I knew something everyone else didn’t. I had known something was going to happen. God had shared that with me through a dream when I was pregnant. I was scared for weeks, but God kept whispering, “Keep going. Trust me. She will be ok.” (Yes, I’d also been told in the dream I was having a baby girl. J I kept it to myself though, afraid that there was a small chance I was just plain crazy.) As I sat in the birthing tub, holding Sylvie while the midwife checked her breathing and heart rate, that dream had come rushing back to me, accompanied by that calming peace God wrapped me in. It stayed with me that night, and over the next week as I stayed by her side in the hospital.63355_943918937424_1527726824_n   After a week of antibiotics for Sylvia, not nearly enough sleep for me, too much time spent away from my little boys, and way more cable tv than I ever care to watch again, I finally got to carry Sylvie-Kate back into our home. 526292_943918578144_1996383283_n Over the next few days I kept thinking about the verses in Psalm that I had read over and over during my pregnancy… Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. Lord my God, I will praise you forever. (Psalm 30: 11-12) Sometimes not-good things happen to good people. Everyone has trials. I’ve learned though, that our trials aren’t always about us. Yes, it was a very hard week for me. I definitely learned some things. That was not the birth experience I had hoped for, and I still sometimes wish things could have happened differently. However, I know God had a bigger plan and used our experience to show at least one person how great his love for us is.  That changes everything. Oh how He loves us…   532066_943785574684_1689020052_n 532152_943785489854_443804811_n This last picture is so precious to me. It was taken the day Sylvia-Kate came home from the hospital. That is my great-grandmother Sylvia, holding her great-great-granddaughter and namesake for the first time. 🙂


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Sylvia-Kate’s Birth Day (part five)

Note: This is Part Five. To start from the beginning CLICK HERE.

November 5, 2012
1:30 am

I woke up having terrible contractions. Again.  I’d been having the same contractions off-and-on for at least 4 weeks. It was getting old, and I was really hoping this was it. Within a few minutes, I was pretty certain it was. Not that anything felt different, I just knew. Little One had been waiting for Daddy. Sure enough, by 3:30 they were getting a little stronger, but not more regular in timing. I woke Steven up and asked him to help me pack a suitcase for our two boys. After we finished that, I sent him back to bed for a while. When he got back up, I assured him I was fine, contractions were not terrible, averaging 7-9 minutes apart, but some were still 20-30 minutes apart, and he left to go return the rental car. My mom brought him back to the house and picked up the boys. My sweet babies had no idea that the next time they were at their house, they’d both be big brothers!

Around noon, the contractions were definitely stronger, but still all over the place. I was starting to get discouraged, thinking this was just another round of painful contractions for nothing. I called my midwife, to check in and as her if it was possible that my contractions might not ever be “regular.” She said it was possible, but she didn’t sound like it was a common occurrence. I asked her to come over to do a bit of monitoring just to see what was going on. She got there a few minutes before 1:00 and informed me I had progressed to 4 cm! We figured we still had a while to wait, based on previous labors, so I sent her back home and we headed into town to check on our boys.  I didn’t want to sit around the house, pacing in circles all day. I also knew if I kept walking, it would probably speed the process up a bit. Next we went to Lowe’s. We were considering remodeling our kitchen in January. I remember being at the back of the store, looking at countertops, and Steven kept cracking jokes about my water breaking right there. He’d make me laugh and it would start another huge contraction. By the time we got back to the front of the store, I was holding onto his arm for support. I was afraid if he got too far from me, I’d panic and fall, or scream. I was much more afraid of screaming in public.  We had already planned to go by Kohl’s for a few minutes, and I assured him I’d be fine and I really did want to go, for just a few minutes. (I know there was something specific I was looking for, but to this day I haven’t remembered what it was.)

When we got to Kohl’s, we made it to the shoe department, and down one aisle of shoes before I told him we had to leave. Right then. And I might need to be carried to the car. I did manage to walk to the car myself, but by the time we got outside the store, I was holding onto his arm again and walking very, very slowly.

When we got home, I rested for a bit while Steven called Tressia, my midwife and gave her the update. She got there a little before 6:00. By then I had made it past 5 cm, almost to 6, so we decided to have her stay.

Another wonderful family from our church family had already planned to bring us supper that evening, and by the time they got there about 6:30, the birthing tub was being filled and I was miraculously between contractions while I stood laughing and visiting with them in my kitchen.

After they left, everything was a blur. I remember watching Dancing with the Stars and joking that this baby had to arrive prior to 9 pm, or during a commercial break, so as not to interrupt my viewing of Castle. (She cooperated by the way.) I remember going to the kitchen and eating a plate of leftover spaghetti. (Thank you Elizabeth!) I remember drinking a glass of apple juice and suddenly having no idea where I had stored all the newborn hats, even though I had put them “somewhere I would not forget.” I remember staring at the huge portrait of my husband and I from our engagement session, hanging over our dining room table. I remember holding my husband’s hand, and being excited to meet our newest little one.  I remember him whispering in my ear that he loved me and reminders to breathe through the pushes.


9:09 pm

Our little Sylvia-Kate Marie entered the world and was placed in my arms. Dark hair, chubby cheeks…a girl! Perfection. Less than 24 hours after Steven walked in our back door, we were holding our beautiful baby girl. She was 4 days late by today’s medical standards, but she was right on time. God’s timing is perfect. I was so thrilled. To this day, everyone asks me if I’m loving having a girl. I am, but not for the reasons everyone thinks. As I held my sweet Sylvia-Kate in my arms that night, all I could do was stare at my husband and say, “You got your girl.” I silently thanked God over and over. After being blessed with two sons, I knew Steven wanted a baby girl to add to the family. When we were shopping in Target, I could barely get him to look at girl clothes, as he didn’t want to get his hopes up. We both knew he would love a third boy just the same as the other two, but he also wanted the opportunity to have that special daddy-daughter bond. I was so happy to have a baby girl, not for my sake, but for his. I watched him cuddle her as tears fell down his cheeks, just as they had when he had first held each of our boys.

For those first few minutes with Sylvie-Kate, our world was perfect.


**Photography by my sweet, talented friend Emily Cottingham of Captured by Cottingham. 🙂



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